I write about Trauma, Sex, BDSM and other human conditions we experience in our daily lives.

Listen to our latest blog post

We need to stop using the term “Narcissist” so casually…

Recently in a conversation with some friends and colleagues, we had been discussing and debating the overuse of the now popularized term of narcissism. This is not something I deal with in my practice, meaning that this is not an area that I treat. I wanted to give my take on it, especially when I see so much name calling on this, and many other social media websites when it comes to people. There are…

Read More

Happiness gauge in relationships…

If a marker for the success of a relationship is based on our happiness, what does that say about that relationship when it is solely wrapped in misery? When we enter a relationship, there are some fundamentals that need to be in place for it to work. Without question, we need honesty as the front runner. The type of unparalleled honesty that makes a relationship grow and evolve. Trust grows from day one. Violations can…

Read More

Anticipation Makes Us Happier…

Think how happy you feel when you’re looking forward to something, whether it’s a holiday, the latest movie you want to see or seeing how the last few pages turn out in the novel you are reading. Research has shown that anticipating something can be a powerful, positive emotion that can help us live happier lives. Researchers tested a theory that anticipation arouses more intense emotion than retrospection. In other words, would people enjoy looking…

Read More

For Change to Happen, the Excuses need to Cease…

For Change to Happen, Excuses need to Cease… We are incredibly elaborate innovative beings. Especially when it comes to procrastination and making up excuses. We will create them to get out of circumstances that we do not want to take part in or may be difficult for us to do. “Want to go to my friend’s place this weekend?” “Aww, I would love to but…” We have mastered the way to create these excuses and…

Read More

BDSM and the psychology behind the myths…

BDSM and the psychology behind the myths… Psychological well-being within BDSM is not harmful or pathologized as once thought. We have to understand, BDSM has commonly been misconstrued as some form linked with psychopathology. While the subculture of BDSM is still not widely studied in academic settings, as has been my experience with trying to convince a professor to supervise me on different studies, there are plenty of studies starting to emerge that reveal the…

Read More

Let’s Talk about Men and Trauma…

Let’s Talk about Men and Trauma… It is regrettable that men and women encounter traumatic events. Trauma is not something you are diagnosed with, it is something that happens to you. When it comes to men and how we cope with trauma, there is a considerable difference between the genders. Statistics say that 60% of men in their lifetime will experience a traumatic event. Trauma can present in many forms, such as experienced in war…

Read More